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Heather Aydelott

Listening

Listen up, folks! No really. That is what I want to talk about today: The Art of Listening. 

I really do think of this as an art form. Have you ever really been heard? I hope so. I can only think of two people in my life, that I interact with regularly, that really listens to me.

As a child growing up my mother never actually listened to me. She would make all the appropriate listening noises, um-hmmm, etc. but her eyes were always far, far away and I knew she was not really listening. She still doesn’t listen to me today; she is one of those individuals, of which I’m convinced is a large percentage of the population, who instead of listening are constantly thinking about what they want to say next.

I was reminded of this yesterday as I was telling one of the funders of my daughter’s dyslexia program that I was unhappy because this program was only supposed to last two years and we are now in year three because they cut down on how many hours my daughter has therapy each week from three to one and three-quarters to accommodate their growing program. I told him she wanted to be finished so she could join choir or the cheer team. He just went on to tell me how much the children love the program and that if they were not doing this they would want to be doing something else, like soccer. What? The man had not been listening to a word I had said.

Listening is profound. It is an amazing thing to be heard. People pay therapists immense sums money for this. 

Ninety percent of my practice as a Natural Health coach is just listening. Most people, I believe, intuitively know how to be healthy, but simply need to be heard or to be told it is okay to listen to their own inner wisdom.

Listening is a sacred practice and one that should be cultivated, just like anything else that is worth doing.

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Heather Aydelott

Creating a life of sacred self love

Increasingly as I interact with clients and authentically talk with people I meet, everyday I am becoming aware that the root of many of our problems is that we lack self-love.

How many of us learned as children that we are perfect, not because of how we look or what we can do, but simply because we are. Isn’t just being enough? If the universe breathed us into existence, doesn’t that already mean we are good enough? Why do we have be a certain way or super productive to be considered worthy?

I believe this issue is the core purpose of my work. People already know what is healthy and what isn’t. The hard part is loving yourself enough to make the right choices. I say we “lose touch” with mainstream reality and turn our listening inwards to experience what our bodies really need and want and giving it to them. That is the true miracle.

The magic happens when we treat ourselves how we treat our children, spouses, and best friends. We are already worthy and deserving of beautiful self love. 

Go ahead. Look in the mirror right now and say, “I love you.” 

Love,

Heather

 

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Heather Aydelott

My story

I thought I would have my first blog post be about my own weight loss story and journey towards lasting health.

Like many people in this country, I grew up in a divorced, semi-dysfunctional family. I was a normal looking kid. I was unhappy and Little Debbie Star crunches helped alleviate some of the pain I was in.

 When I was in middle school, I moved in with my dad and grandmother and kept fluctuating with my weight. I wanted to be thin like my older sister, but that just was not happening for me; I really liked food.

Fast forward through high school and college, where my weight kept fluctuating. Lots of drinking, late night burger binges, and then mad exercise trying to make up for it.  I would be thin one month and hefty the next. I could not seem to get it right and felt as if I had absolutely no willpower when it came to food.

Luckily, my college roommate introduced me to the wonderful world of exercise and I did become a die-hard exerciser and still am today. But back then, I didn’t have the knowledge about how my body worked so I wasn’t working with it, but rather punishing it and working against it. Workouts were a punishment, rather than the celebration that they have evolved into today.

I married, had two daughters, kept working out regularly, and kept eating in all the unhealthy ways I had been throughout my childhood. I was also at my heaviest. Not technically overweight, but definitely at the high end of the spectrum for my height, and I was terribly unhappy about it. 

Part of the problem was that even though I worked out, lots of running with even a marathon thrown in there for good measure, I was under the mistaken belief that if I worked out I could eat whatever I wanted. This, I now know, is patently untrue.  Exercising is a beautiful thing; I love a good sweat and celebrating all my body is capable of doing, but I am not fooling myself into believing that exercise is what now keeps me at my goal weight.

Then I discovered the Paleolithic diet in about 2008. I read some books about it and I was intrigued. It made sense and is grounded in evolutionary biology and spoke to my science background. I tried starting this lifestyle several times and always ended up failing. How could a staple, like bread, be keeping me from my goals and from feeling and looking my best? Plus, bread is really, really good. Finally, after starting and stopping this “diet” about three times it finally stuck. I noticed several things right away when I gave up grains, sugar, and dairy, although I did and still do eat legumes. First off, the itchiness I had in my ears for years, ever since I was pregnant with my first daughter went away. Secondly, I stopped getting almost monthly yeast infections, and then the weight came off and kept coming off and I felt great!

Overall, I lost about 30 pounds and have kept it off for eight years. This turn around, for me, to living a primal or Paleolithic lifestyle is why I became a health coach. There is so much misinformation out there and it is hard for people to navigate it and know what works and is true and what is not. I want to help people wade through it and find what works for them.

I also believe in bio-individuality. What works for me may not work for everybody and that is okay, but I know that we need to turn inward and listen to our bodies. They know what is best for us. Moreover, there are a few things I know for sure that will work across the board, eating mostly at home and eating real food.

Throughout this blog, I will be making connections for all my readers about nutrition information, what is true, and what is not, and talking about how to make the best decisions for you and your family.

In addition, I personally think it is valuable to remember that it is loving kindness towards ourselves and feeding our bodies’ nutritious food and clean water that nurtures the spirit as well. Once we begin to act lovingly towards ourselves and treat our bodies with love and respect this will radiate outwards ultimately transforming the whole world.

Love,

Heather